GraceNotes: Holding the Space for … Reflection

#73 — May 1, 2018

“You cannot pour from an empty cup.”
“Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you.”
“The flame that burns twice as bright burns half as long.”

Greetings, Inspired Seekers!

Three quotes from three faith traditions that all send the same message. So, why are we not listening? Why is it so hard to hear? What makes us go, go, go to the point of exhausted collapse? I'm not sure but I think ego has something to do with it … as well as a lack of stewardship for our whole being. And, well, I am guilty as charged.

In this crazy word of deadlines, care giving, career development and parenting (did I miss anything?!) where is the stop button for our bodies, minds and spirits? What do we think will happen if we pause? What, in essence, are we afraid of? Not being good enough? Rich enough? Revered enough? It's time to “get woke” to the fact that lack of self care does not make us better or more noble. It makes us tired. Very tired.

When we are tired we miss miraculous moments; we miss friends in need and we miss the joyous experiences that make life worth living. “I don't have time” has become a mantra for many. And, with that mantra come moments we cannot get back.

The Creator celebrates our humanity and takes delight in our happiness; the Creator also knows that we require rest, refueling and reflection in order to rejoice.

So, as we till our gardens and feed them during this spring season so that they will flower and grow, let's not forget to feed the body, feed the spirit and feed the soul so that we can feed the world with our gifts. Buddha knew it; John knew it and Lao Tzu knew it… after all, their words are at the top of this letter!

Grace-Fully Yours,
Reverend Deborah

Monthly Affirmation: I am important enough to take care of.

The Reverend Deborah Darlington celebrates and nurtures the life events of people of all traditions. She can be reached at 215 260 1611 or at for weddings and other rites of passage.