GraceNotes: Holding the Space for … Reflection

#145 — May 1, 2024

What does it mean to listen to a voice before it is spoken? It means making space for the other, being aware of the other, paying attention to the other, honouring the other.

— Dr. Parker J. Palmer

Greetings, Inspired Seekers:

What is your practice? And when was the last time you either asked or were asked that question?

As an Interfaith Minister, in each new spiritual encounter, that is one of the first questions I ask. I inquire in this way, not so much as to seek the faith tradition, but, rather, to gain a glimpse into how that tradition informs the daily life of the person before me.

Here, in our culture of putting people in boxes, I prefer to focus on the how of their faith rather than the what – although that is important in any spiritual relationship.

The Eastern traditions, most notably Buddhism, are practice-centered, non-theistic traditions that focus on lovingkindness and compassion. They can perfectly share the heart-space with any of our Western traditions without threat. More philosophy than religion, it is common to hear people say, “I'm Christian and I also practice some of the Buddhist traditions such as meditation and tonglen.” I get it.

There are many parts of the world's traditions that can enhance and benefit us all, regardless of the tradition we might subscribe to or have been born into. One does not endanger the other, except as a construct in our own mind.

Perhaps, exploring the aspects of other traditions might just be what we need.

Perhaps, new ideas can provide new insights, open our hearts to a hurting world and expand our thinking.

Perhaps, spending time on a cushion, in a temple, in the forest or in a pew not our own will offer us a new way to engage with our spirituality, our faith and with others who share our planet home.

In a world that, too often, is “us vs. them,” “What is your practice?” might just be the question to open doors, minds and hearts, and help the healing.

Grace, Always Yours,
Reverend Deborah

Question of the Month: What faith tradition will you explore and learn from this month?


The Reverend Dr. Deborah Darlington serves all without judgment and strives to help the healing. She can be reached at GraceMatters@TheSpaceForGrace.com or 215 260 1611.

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